This isn’t the usual kind of thing I like to discuss but I’m going to vent a little. Today I practically had to pick my jaw up off the ground after overhearing and seeing two very grown adults in leadership positions behave like catty, mean, bully-headed teenagers while they didn't realize anyone was standing in earshot of them. It shouldn’t (because it happens everywhere) but it does, boggle my mind that grown adults in professional fields where unity and teamwork should be
If you catch wind of others belittling you or your goals, decisions or perspectives, then keep in mind that they are not you, and are not called and created to do what you're called and created to do. These are probably the same kind of people who complain about more than they praise, and who still need to figure out what it is they were made to do - don't let their lack of pursuit slow yours down. People who are never short of negative opinions about everyone and everything
What's in your life that shouldn't be there isn't as harmless as you might think. Everything that goes in and out of what we do, see, hear and talk about impacts the way we think, what we do and how our life looks on the in and outside. You are the doorkeeper to who and what is and is not allowed in your life. We don't always have control over our environment, our circumstances and certainly not other people, but we do get to choose who and what stays, and who and what doesn'
At this 9/11 memorial in Napa, tucked into the rusty beams were these beautiful single roses that had dried over time; it took me back to my first trip to NYC in 2004 with the talent agency I was signed with, as a teenager who didn't [really] understand what had happened or why. I remember the feeling of my heart sinking to my gut seeing the last beams standing, and 🖊messages written on walls and fences [like, "daddy, please come home", "mommy, we miss you"...] with marker f
You can have it together but still fall short. We don't have to have a life in shambles or be making obviously questionable choices to miss the mark and fall short. You don't have to be 'living in sin' to warrant some sort of attitude adjustment or change of perspective. There are always going to be areas in our day to day life that could benefit from adjustments. Most issues we face will put us in positions to either think, say or do something out of love, or out of somethi
When we quit worrying about trying to keep everyone happy (because we won’t, and it’s all good), life becomes bigger and your vibes get better. You were fearfully and wonderfully made; created to make a difference and stand out for your own unique abilities, traits and gifts- not to fit into any one particular mold the world seems to think is ideal, or to appease other people. No matter what you do, where you live, what your background or current situation looks like, people
There's the highlight reel of the in-your-face (typically manipulated and ultra-edited) social media world, and then, there's day to day reality with no filters and no editing. Real life means sharing the world with other people, and where there are people there will be problems, often in the least expected seasons of our life, or from the most unexpected people - possibly even the ones who mean the most to us. Regardless of the what that happens when, with who, where and why
When you hear of, or accuse someone of doing something “like a girl”, you’re likely to translate that into a negative accusation- associating the phrase with weakness or an inability to successfully do something. Fortunately, that kind of stone age thinking is being buried by females who choose to excel in whatever it is they do, with hearts full of courage and mindsets that are far from weak. You’re bound to know someone, at least one- who, just so happens to be a girl that
Being your best, and having a physique you're truly confident in won't require rocket science, but it will require something that for many people, is even more complex. It's going to take the right mindset. Afterall, if you can master your own mind, you can master your own body. If you haven't already, read Why You're Not Seeing the Results You Want, Part One. Anyone can set a goal and have the tools and resources necessary to reach it, but taking longterm action and seeing i
We all want to excel and become better (beit in our health and fitness, relationships, education, career or hobby), but sometimes being able to do so gets blocked by always rushing to the rescue of other people for the sake of ignoring what really needs attention in us. I'm talking to the people-pleasers (I was once one of them), and the intentionally aloof (I was also once one of those, too). Do you constantly become readily available to rescue people when their times get to
(Updated from 2/9/2015) We know better than to waste our time judging others, yet we are so quick to spend time judging ourselves with a mindset of fear, doubt, condemnation or the combination of all three, which almost always leads to self-sabotage. Before you talk yourself out of moving forward through your goals, because it 'might be too hard', 'take too much time, 'sacrifice', and effort', or because you think you're 'not deserving or good enough', give yourself a chance!
Visible results are why we decide to put in the effort it takes to bring them about, so how do we deal with the hard truth that achieving them takes more time than we may want? The plea I read and hear asked so often is, "Why am I not seeing results, yet?". Moving forward to the results we're after requires more than just effort, it requires a plan, diligence and consistency. Here are five very fundamental things to consider before jumping the mindset gun of "(XYZ) is just no